Mitzvah Thank You Note Etiquette

I didn't write this, obviously.  But, I found it on mitzvahwire.com.  I thought it might be helpful.

 

 

By Alexandria Merriman

Once your Mitzvah festivities have drawn to a close, it’s time to delve into that wonderful heap of gifts. Before having at it, remember that with all that fabulous loot comes the responsibility of expressing your appreciation with a hand-written note. As you open your gifts, use your invitation list to keep track of what you receive and from whom. Then curl up in a comfortable spot in your home, put on some favorite music, and get writing.
Promptness is essential to conveying genuine gratitude. Your notes should be written and mailed no later than two to four weeks following your Mitzvah. If that large stack of unwritten cards seems overwhelming, break up the writing over a couple weeks and make a goal to finish a certain number of notes each day. Take time with each, as rushed words and sloppy handwriting will betray your hastiness and make your note seem forced or insincere. If you find yourself losing steam, remind yourself that each gift giver put forth time and effort in giving you a present and deserves thanks in return.

Make your note warm and personal by including a few nice details about the gift. Describe how you have used it or discuss a specific aspect you admire. Mention the compliments you’ve gotten on your silver necklace or how lovely the engraved frame looks on your desk, holding a family photograph. For monetary gifts, thank them for their generosity and let them know what you plan to do with the money.
In addition to showing appreciation for the gift itself, make sure to let your guest know how much their attendance meant to you. Thank them for sharing in your celebration and helping to make your day extra special. If there was a photo taken of the two of you at the event, consider enclosing a copy in the card. This gracious gesture adds a personal touch and shows that their presence truly made a difference.

Finally, reference your relationship to the gift giver. If you know will both attend a specific future event, mention that you look forward to seeing them there. If you are writing to a close friend or family member, let them know you feel lucky to have them in your life. Wrap up with a quick reiteration of your gratitude before signing off. Depending upon your relationship to the gift giver, “Love,” “Sincerely,” or “Best,” accompanied by your signature is the perfect way to conclude your correspondence